How to Heal a Dysregulated Nervous System

Running a business is the biggest self-development journey you’ll ever go through. As someone who has scaled multiple companies, became a multi-millionaire in my 20s and managed a team of 60, I know all too well about this. 

And while multi-millions sounded great on paper, and looked fantastic on the outside, the truth of it was this…

Despite having millions, I constantly had money issues. I’d make lots of money, then I’d lose it again. It was like no matter what I did, I’d attract the wrong people who took advantage, trust the wrong person or make the wrong decision, which led me to feeling like I was starting from scratch all over again.

And the reason why that cycle continued to repeat itself for years was because my nervous system was constantly in a state of dysregulation. 

Why?

The dysregulation wasn’t the cause, merely a symptom of the subconscious unhealed blocks I’d been carrying inside me since childhood – every single one of them were manifesting themselves in my day to day. 

I was able to heal the root cause, discovered some amazing gifts along that journey, and reconnected with my soul’s true purpose, helping people like you, who stumbled across today’s sacred wisdom. 

These days I’m happy, regulated, at peace and have managed to rebuild everything back.

And so today, my hope is to guide you on the first step to your healing too, by teaching you about what the signs are of a dysregulated nervous system, how they can sneakily show up for you on the day to day and how you can regulate then heal the root cause so you stop repeating the same patterns.  

What are the signs of a dysregulated nervous system?

If you ever find yourself in a business situation that has you feeling triggered or like your body is having a reaction like it’s a mind of its own and it feels like there’s nothing you can do to control it, this could be a sign you are in a dysregulated nervous system state. 

Dysregulated nervous system states usually fall into 4 main categories: 

Fight 

When you’re in a fight state, you might find yourself really panicked or anxious, like everything needs to be done immediately, you’ll also be quite irritable to be around and people likely won’t enjoy being around you. 

Flight 

This is where you just want to run for the hills; you might storm out of a meeting or just cancel it before it happens, even if it’s something super important that could propel your business forward. You’ll likely find yourself saying “ugh, I can’t deal with this anymore”

Freeze 

This is where you’ll feel the most stuck in life and business; like you have a million options on what the next move is but don’t know where to go so you don’t move at all 

Fawn 

This is something that a lot of women in business can struggle with because they want to be liked by others, avoid criticism and if you naturally are a care giver, you’ll put other’s needs before yourself. The most famous example of a fawn state is people pleasing; maybe that’s by keeping your prices low, not sticking to the word of your contracts and relaxing boundaries so you won’t get cancelled or called out. 

Why Dysregulation Can Negatively Impact Your Business

The problem with being dysregulated too is that it then causes you to experience limiting beliefs, I don’t mean things like “I’m not good enough”, I mean the more dangerous ones like “I have to work hard to deserve success” (fight), if I become too successful, people might judge me and tell me I’m too big for my boots (fawn). 

But if you’re here, please know that this is ALL subconscious programming which you can heal. And, if you’ve ever found yourself experiencing one, or even all of these states on the regular, let this serve as your reminder that you’re not a lost cause, in fact, you’re pretty normal. 

Until you’ve done the energy healing work, these patterns will continue to show up over and over, which is why so many business owners feel the same way.

But I’d like to give you insight on what it’s like on the other side. 

I remember having a conversation with Summer not too long ago, where she told me I was reacting way too chill around someone breaking what should have been a boundary. 

It was at that moment I realised I’d done so much of this work, that things most people see as cause for concern completely goes over my head. That doesn’t make me naive, but it does allow me to focus my energy on things that DO matter rather than some non-issues that would’ve previously caused my nervous system to spiral. 

What are some nervous system regulation techniques?

If you find yourself in a situation where you feel like you’ve entered a dysregulated state, here’s what will help overcome it for each of the four types. 

How to get out of a fight state 

You need to move your body. Go for a walk, shake, even attend a boxercise class to shift some of that energy, otherwise it ends up manifesting in other ways like you snapping at staff or losing your temper. 

How to overcome flight state

You need to give yourself some grace when in a flight state which is why it's a good idea to reconnect with yourself and just wrap yourself in a blanket for a bit with a hot water bottle, or do a meditation to ground yourself. Put simply, your body wants to escape. Instead of running away try to connect with someone or something that will help you feel less alone. 

How to become unstuck when you’re in freeze 

You’d think the action for this would be to just move. Toxic hustle culture will convince you you’re being lazy or aren’t as motivated as your peers, but when you’re in a freeze state pushing yourself too much can actually make the problem worse. If you’re overwhelmed, giving yourself a “motivational pep talk” to do the 100 things on your to do list will push you further into overwhelm, which is why in moments like this you need to give yourself space to slow down. 

How to stop people pleasing and overcome fawn state 

There’s a reason why people in a fawn state naturally come together to find a community of people experiencing the same thing, because that’s exactly what the body craves to get out of this. If you’re constantly people pleasing and finding yourself in fawn state, connecting with a recovered people pleaser is one of the best things you can do because you allow yourself to be seen. You’re not crazy, just a little bit fried from over explaining yourself. 

One thing I do want to touch upon though, now that you do have the tools to overcome nervous system dysregulation, is that being in a state where you’re always triggered and always need to re-regulate yourself tells me something deeper. 

That there’s more going on that just someone stressing you out in the office today, or that huge deal that’s been weighing on your mind for weeks. 

Nervous system regulation techniques will help you in the moment, but they are a temporary bandaid; treating the symptoms if you will, to get you in a regulated state so you can then heal the root cause. 

With the right energy healing techniques, you won’t just reset your nervous system when you’re feeling triggered, you’ll heal your nervous system for good. 

Energy Healing to Overcome Nervous System Dysregulation for Good

I want you to take a moment to imagine your life, 3 to 6 months from now. Instead of Googling or asking ChatGPT how to regulate your nervous system, what if instead you cleared the energy blocks that are causing that to happen for good. 

When I started going deeper, looked at my own past traumas (no matter how small and insignificant they looked), stories I’d inherited from my childhood and patterns I kept repeating, I was not just able to rebuild a successful business, I built a better one too. 

Attracting the most amazing clients, travelling the world helping hundreds of people who are currently going through what I went through so that they can now live an abundant life of clarity, prosperity and true freedom. 

That's the work we do inside The Calm and Confidence Reset, a six week private healing journey for people who are tired of resetting themselves every few days.

We clear the root cause together, with weekly one to one healing sessions, gentle guidance and integration tools, and messaging support in between so you're never doing this alone. 

In just a few short sessions, you'll realise that a lot of what you've written off as your personality, the situations you keep finding yourself in and the people you keep attracting are just old patterns from past experiences that have stuck in your subconscious and are now impacting your life and business on the day to day, causing you to spiral towards nervous system dysregulation.